Let me guess, you’re watching your toddler roll around the crib like they’re in Cirque du Soleil… even though you know they’re tired. Meanwhile, you’re silently begging for just one solid nap so you can sit down and finish your coffee while it’s still hot.
Sound familiar?
Nap resistance is one of the most common sleep struggles I see in toddlers, and it can make even the most patient parent want to throw in the towel. But here’s the good news: there’s always a reason behind the nap fight, and once you understand it, you can make small shifts that make a big difference.
Let’s walk through why naps matter, why they sometimes fall apart, and what you can do to make naptime smoother for everyone.
Why Naps Are Still a Big Deal
Toddlers are in a phase of big leaps: running, climbing, learning new words, testing limits. Their brains are like little sponges… with a serious case of FOMO. So yes, pausing playtime for a nap can feel like the worst idea ever to them.
But here’s the thing: toddlers still need between 11–15 hours of sleep in a 24-hour period, and most don’t get all of that at night. Naps fill the gap and help:
- Regulate emotions
- Improve behavior
- Support learning and memory
- Prevent meltdowns that come out of nowhere at 4:45 p.m.
Not to mention… naps are also a gift to parents. That mid-day pause? You deserve it.
Why Is My Toddler Fighting Naps?
Here are the most common reasons I see, and what to look out for:
1. They’re transitioning from two naps to one
This typically happens between 15–18 months, but some babies are ready as early as 12 months. If you drop a nap too soon, though, it often backfires.
Try this: If your toddler skips a nap, observe: Do they get cranky, clingy, or hyper by dinner? That’s overtiredness talking.
Signs of overtiredness:
- Tantrums and meltdowns
- Clumsiness
- Frequent night wakings
- Extra clingy behavior
- Hyperactivity (yep, it’s a thing!)
You can read more about overtiredness in babies and toddlers in this blog post.
2. They haven’t had enough physical activity
Toddlers have energy to burn, and if they don’t get a good outlet, they won’t be tired enough to nap. Think: playground time, climbing stairs, racing down the hallway.
Dreamworthy tip: Active play in the morning = better sleep in the afternoon.
3. Nap timing is off
Too early and they’re not tired. Too late and they’re too tired. Finding that sweet spot matters!
Follow age-appropriate wake windows to strike the right balance.
4. They’re overstimulated
Imagine sprinting off a trampoline straight into a meditation class. That’s what it’s like for toddlers going from chaos to crib with no wind-down.
Create a short, calming nap routine.
Confession: When my son was younger, I used to scoop him straight from Lego city to his crib. Let’s just say… that didn’t go well. Once I added a 5-minute wind-down routine? Game changer.
5. They’re going through a life or developmental change
Things like learning to walk, starting daycare, gaining a new sibling, or potty training can all throw sleep off temporarily.
Consistency helps toddlers feel safe during transitions.
6. Separation anxiety
It can flare up again in toddlerhood and may lead to nap resistance. Stick to your routine and offer reassurance, but stay consistent with your boundaries.
7. Boundary testing or FOMO
Toddlers love pushing limits, and sleep is no exception. If they sense wiggle room, they’ll test it (and test you).
Stay consistent. They’ll feel more secure when they know exactly what to expect.
So… How To Handle Toddler Nap Resistance Without a Meltdown
Here’s your game plan:
✅ Adjust the schedule if needed. Look at their wake windows and total sleep needs.
✅ Optimize the sleep space:
- White noise to block out distractions
- Blackout curtains for a cave-like vibe
- Remove toys from the crib or bed
✅ Stick to a nap routine: Something short and calming – books, lullabies, cuddles.
✅ Be lovingly firm: Toddlers thrive with structure. Set clear, kind boundaries and stick to them.
Can’t make them sleep? That’s okay.
If your toddler won’t nap, use quiet time as a backup. Give them a chance to rest their body and brain, even if sleep doesn’t happen. It still helps!
When It’s Time to Drop the Nap
Most kids aren’t ready to fully drop naps until age 3–4. Here’s how to tell they’re ready:
- Skipping naps multiple days in a row
- Bedtime is creeping later and later
- No signs of tiredness after skipping a nap
If you’re ready to say goodbye to naps, expect a little bumpy transition. Try:
- Earlier bedtime
- Quiet time in place of the nap
- Flexibility on high-energy days (sometimes they will still need one)
You Don’t Have to Do This Alone
If every day feels like a nap negotiation, I’ve got you. Let’s figure this out together.
💤 Book your free sleep assessment, and we’ll chat about what’s going on and how to get your toddler’s naps (and your sanity) back on track.
✨ Everyone deserves dreamworthy sleep—yes, even during the toddler years.
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